Ways to Cope With Mental Health Symptoms During the Winter and Holiday Season

I am currently going through a bit of Seasonal Affective Disorder symptoms. Seasonal Affective Disorder or “SAD” is a mental health disorder that is related to changes in the season. It often occurs in the cold winter months for people but for me it always starts earlier in the fall.

Some of my symptoms include low mood, fatigue, decreased motivation and concentration and focus, to name a few. Some ways I cope with this include extra rest, loving self-talk, breaking small tasks down to even smaller tasks and asking others for help.

I also try to incorporate some sort of movement in my day a couple of times a week. My favorite thing to do is lift light weights and also do easy leg exercises and stretching. This not only makes me feel stronger but the stretching is very relaxing and self-soothing. And if these exercises feel like too much I will break them down in tiny ways like gently stretching my neck muscles only or just rotating my wrists and ankles a few times, for example.

I also plan on getting out my therapy light this week, which I haven’t had to use in a while. Probably not since last fall. It is a flat lamp about the size and shape of a Kindle reader that puts out a specific spectrum of light that mimics sunlight and helps regulate sleep-wake cycles, melatonin production, and for me, often gives me a boost of energy in the morning. I usually sit in front of it for about a half an hour a day. If you have bipolar disorder, I’ve read that you should use a therapy light with care as it can trigger mania symptoms in some individuals.

(Always check with your doctor or therapist before starting any exercise or light therapy routine.)

I find that listening to calming music and taking warm baths help me get through tough moments or days. As do taking showers and washing my hair regularly and eating and drinking when I am hungry or thirsty. To someone who doesn’t have depression, these things may seem silly to mention, but to those of us with it, we know how difficult they are to accomplish at times.

In the midst of end-of-the-year holidays, I must prioritize rest even more or my nervous system explodes with anxiety that causes me mental and physical pain. Resting is a challenge with so many extra activities and tasks to do but I manage by asking for help a lot and doing a little bit each day instead of all of it at once.

How is your fall/winter/holiday season going? What are ways in which you cope with mental health symptoms this time of year?

How to Know When to Change Up a Medication

How to Know When to Change Up a Medication

There is a sure-fire easy answer to this: Talk to your doctor about it! I know many people, especially us mental illness people-types, who think decreasing or taking ourselves off of a psych med is a good idea, especially if we are manic and feeling good. In the past, every time I became hypomanic I would tell my doctor I wanted to try a med reduction and she would say, no the meds are working that is why you feel good. Then we figured out that wanting to come off a med was actually a sign of hypomania for me.

Fast forward to today…Life is becoming very different for me. I have been in some intense therapy, healing from childhood trauma and neglect, for over a year now and finally getting really good at setting boundaries with others and making major changes in my life that more fully align with my values and what I truly want to do and not want to do. Because of this, my mental health is such that I no longer need one of my sleep medications. I am actually sleeping ten times better than I used to with it, when I wasn’t as mentally healthy.

I am still on several other psych meds and am talking with my doctor about the next one to wean off of. She is letting me take the lead on which one to try because one is not necessarily more important than another.

I am weighing out my options based on how hard they are to wean off of, what their current risks and side effects are, and how much they affect my physical health. I know what I want to try because of its current risks and side effects but it happens to be the most difficult one to come off of. I tried once before, many years ago, and the irritability it caused affected my relationships. Granted, I believe now that I cut the dose down too much as I was doing it without my doctor’s supervision (which I said at the beginning of this post is a big no-no.)

With my doctor’s help this time I will tell her my concern and hopefully, we can find a way to minimize the irritability and get me off of this med in particular.

Have you tried weaning off a psych med with or without your doctor’s supervision? I’d love to hear about your experience.

P.S. In my last post, I wrote about having a goal of writing blogs of 600+ words. That blog post was about 200 words and this one is a little over 400. I am making progress!

Give Me the Best Mental Health Blogs You Follow

I started this blog in 2011 (or 2012. It has been so long I can’t remember for sure.) At first I was very active but as the years wore on I got away from posting regularly and reading other blogs as well.

I checked a year or two ago and found that the people I had formed relationships with here on WordPress are not active on their blogs anymore at all. I miss them even though we only conversed via comments on one another’s blogs.

I would like to get back to writing about mental health topics on a regular basis. The thing that makes it difficult is that I don’t want to make it like a diary and tell the details of my personal life, but strictly writing in a research article style doesn’t feel right either. I will have to work on finding a balance between the two.

I also want to form some new blogger relationships which will help me stay connected with the topics I am interested in. So, please give me some good recommendations for mental health WordPress blogs. And if you have one, all the better!

Thanks for being a subscriber to my site, Write into the Light.

Until next time,

WiL (she/her)

Inner Child

Invisible
I am
No cloak
I just
Am

Something
Unseen
An extra
Unnoticed

Childhood
Done
Unto
Me.

And now
I see you
And I love you
She says
To me.

I see you and I love you!
I see you and I love you!

I see her
Reflection
Addressing
Me.

Connection with Others Who Have Mental Health Issues

In an attempt to build up the Write into the Light community, I am committing to post a blog every Monday when possible. I want to get back to providing informative and engaging articles on mental health topics.

It has been difficult for me over the last several years because one of my medications has greatly diminished my creative processes. Additionally, I am no longer on another medicine that used to help me focus and concentrate.

Therefore, I have decided to research topics and enlist the help of an AI app to help me create reliable, organized, and detailed content. I want to be completely transparent about this because I want to maintain the trust and faith you have shown me by your support of my writing over the past 13 years.

If you have any questions or requests for specific topics, please let me know in the comments. Thank you so much!

Being a Mom with Anxiety

I became a mom almost 21 years ago. I was not yet diagnosed with mental illness. About six months into motherhood when postpartum depression had a strong hold on me, I went to my doctor for help and she put me on an antidepressant. About six years later, after the birth of my second child, I was diagnosed with bipolar type 2 disorder. It is at this point that I think my anxiety developed into something that I could not handle without professional help or medication because I began to have panic attacks along with generalized anxiety and eventually severe social anxiety.

Play dates were difficult at best and attending sporting events were and still are extremely stressful and anxiety producing (hint: wearing earbuds playing calming music helps a lot!) Having children who are growing up with their own anxiety and depression issues only increases the stress of motherhood exponentially for a mom with anxiety. On the up side, having an anxiety disorder has better equipped me to completely empathize with my children and help them in ways I would not be able to if I hadn’t already learned skills to deal with my own anxiety.  Some of these skills include the following:

  • Setting healthy boundaries by saying no to things when I feel I am reaching my threshold for responsibilities and daily activities. 
  • Asking for help with daily responsibilities from my partner, family, and friends.
  • Taking time for self care activities like reading a chapter of a book, journaling, taking a bubble bath, listening to calming music, watching an episode of a series I enjoy, petting my dog or cat, taking a nap, sitting in the sun for a few minutes, doing my nails, getting my hair done, meditating, or doing some stretches or simple yoga exercises.
  • Not being hard on myself when I can’t do things I wish I could. 
  • Accepting my limitations.
  • Praying for the strength to do as much as possible without making myself sick.
  • Being thankful for all I can do and for all I have instead of focusing on the negative aspects of having an anxiety disorder. 

Being a mom with anxiety has its challenges, but with an awareness of and honoring what your limitations are and following the suggestions above, you can thrive as a mom and a person with anxiety. 

Why I Took a Mental Health Hiatus

It has been nine months since I posted here because I needed to take a break from thinking and talking and writing about mental health and mental illness.

I went through a big change around the time I quit blogging and I suppose that has something to do with the long break as well. This change altered some of my core values and helped me grow as a person in ways I never would have imagined. My love and tolerance for all people has blossomed exponentially.

I dare say I went about a psychic change that brought me through a depression and grieving process to a place of total acceptance. I am a better person for it today.

However, even with the positive impact this event had on my character, I still have all of my mental illnesses (bipolar type 2, anxiety and panic disorders, social anxiety disorder, ADHD, seasonal affective disorder, complex PTSD, recovered alcoholism, borderline personality traits).

The most prevalent illness currently causing problems for me is anxiety. The social and generalized anxieties are the main triggers for my chronic migraine. The ways in which I limit my activities outside of the house in order to decrease my migraine frequency has made my world very small.

Is your life limited because of your symptoms? How so? Tell me in the comments and follow me for more mental health updates.

Mental Health Awareness Month 2021

We are half way through Mental Health Awareness Month.  Awareness for mental health is so important because people die everyday from poor mental health. People can’t work due to poor mental health or take care of their family or get out of bed. We have to bring awareness to this in order to normalize it in such a way that those who find themselves in such situations don’t hesitate to get professional help.

Twenty percent of adults in the United States experience a mental health condition in a given year. This topic deserves our attention and consideration. People are suffering and need help. 

What are some ways we can raise awareness?

– Download You Are Not alone graphics, logos and social media images from NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) at https://www.nami.org/Get-Involved/Awareness-Events/Awareness-Resources

– Share the following mental health facts taken from nami.org with permission.

– Host a Facebook or Instagram Live with an expert or a person with real life experience to discuss how people can manage their mental health or practice self-care.

– Share a video of what mental health means to you. Use video sharing apps like TikTok or Instagram reels to create videos to post on your social media profiles.

– Use the following social media hashtags for Mental Health Awareness Month:

#NotAlone
#MentalHealthMonth
#MHM

– Promote NAMI Helpline’s contact information and hours of availability as a resource for people seeking mental health support. Monday – Friday 8:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. ET. 800-950-NAMI (6264). info@nami.org nami.org/Help

How are you going to help increase mental health awareness this month?

Feel free to use these graphics from NAMI.

Can Being Too Busy Cause Anxiety?

The short answer to this question is yes, for sure. All it took was four doctors’ appointments in the span of two weeks and planning a birthday party for my mom on top of my normal daily tasks of running the kids to school and activities and keeping up on housework to bring me to DEFCON 1 anxiety.

My anxiety tends to present itself as irritability towards anyone whom I hold near and dear to me, most notably my beloved husband, poor guy.  I not only become dissatisfied with everything that is going on in the house, but I also can’t stand the way anyone is doing anything around me. 

It is usually best if I retreat to a quiet room on my own to chill out with something to read, watch or listen to. Sometimes it does help to talk it out with my husband as well. 

Also here is a great list of dos and don’ts when I find myself too busy and filled with anxiety. 

  1. Don’t over commit.  For example, I rescheduled some of my doctor’s appointments for a time when I wasn’t so busy. 
  2. Do prioritize.  I found that I could let laundry pile up a little that week and catch up on it the following week when I wasn’t so busy so I could make it to my appointments.
  3. Do delegate so you don’t have to push yourself so hard.  I asked for help in driving the kids to some of their activities that week to give myself a break. 
  4. Don’t forget to treat yourself for working so hard.  Mocha lattes every other afternoon for two weeks!

So, as you can see being too busy can cause anxiety especially in someone who already has an anxiety disorder.  However, there are ways to cope with it and decrease it if you take the time to make the appropriate adjustments to your schedule and approach. 

Keep an eye on your busyness before anxiety has its eye on you. 

Checking In to See…

Would appreciate your feedback as I’d like to plan out some upcoming posts with an audience in mind and to connect with you out there. 😊