Researchers say there are some positives to having depression. I am not so sure I agree with them. Let’s take a look at what they are saying:
- Depression makes you a better problem-solver because you need to figure out (usually with the help of a therapist) how to deal with your existing symptoms and the problems they cause in your life.
My thought on this is if we knew how to deal with our problems in the first place, many of us wouldn’t have became depressed to begin with.
- Depression forces you to learn how to cope, again, usually with the help of a therapist or professional of some sort. Admittedly, researchers say that those who are depressed often initially choose poor coping mechanisms such as drinking.
So what I am hearing is that many of us had poor coping mechanisms which probably increased our chances of becoming depressed in the first place. I don’t see the positive in this.
- You have better relationships because those who are depressed become better, as part of their healing process, at prioritizing what is and who is important in their lives.
Again, this suggests that before professional help, we did not have the ability to prioritize well. I know this was the case for me as I put financial security above my relationships and my own mental health which lead to a breakdown that almost cost me my life.
- Depression can make us more compassionate to others going through hard times.
This I totally agree with, hands down! You can’t really understand what a person is going through unless you have been there yourself.
- We are better at dealing with stress after going through the process, with a therapist, of figuring out what went wrong and how to avoid or manage future stressful times.
While this is true, again, it points to the fact that we did not deal with stress very well before the depression took over.
- We are more realistic because we better understand what we have control over and what we don’t in life.
Again, we do now, but not before the depression took hold.
- We can detect deception because we tend to have a more “realistic” view on life.
Realistic? How about pessimistic or cynical – those would be my choice of words.
Don’t get me wrong – I love that research is trying to say there are benefits to having depression. It is all about looking at the glass half-full, I suppose. But, if your depression is anything like mine, there wasn’t any water in the glass to begin with. What are your thoughts on this?